How to Ask Someone to Be Your Valentine

How to Ask Someone to Be Your Valentine


You're head over heels—and with good reason. Valentine's Day can light a spark or keep a flame burning, whether you've just met someone special or you're in a long-term committed relationship. 

Falling in love is magical, and finding creative ways to stay in love is one of the most endearing parts of a relationship. So, you can (and totally should!) take advantage of the opportunity to express your admiration and desire to spend more time with your special someone. 

There are countless ways to say that one simple phrase—Happy Valentine's Day. When you were a child, you said it with the tiniest paper cards with the silliest sayings. And candy hearts. You can't forget the candy hearts. 

Valentine's Day became more meaningful as you grew older and began to desire a happy, healthy, serious relationship. Even now—you've found yourself searching for romantic ways to ask someone special to be your valentine. 

Well, we've got lots of them. And thanks to Lovepop's Valentine's Day tips, this Valentine's Day will leave stars in your eyes—and hearts in theirs! If you’re wondering how to ask someone to be your valentine, this article will prepare you to say Happy Valentine's Day this year. 

Tips for Asking Someone to Be Your Valentine

If you're looking for an idea that's a little more grown-up than candy hearts & paper valentines—but still sugary sweet & meaningful—we can help.

Asking someone to be your valentine depends on what they like. Expressing your care means focusing on what will be meaningful to them. There are many ways to share a thoughtful gift or message for Valentine's Day, making it hard to choose just one. So whether you want to kiss and make up with your sweetheart or flirt with a new flame, we've gathered a bouquet of our favorite sentimental ideas. And, not surprisingly, one of them is an *actual bouquet.* 

Here are some of our favorite creative ideas. 

Write a Letter

One of the most romantic gifts of all time is a handwritten letter. Some of the best romance movies tell stories of love letter romances, from Shop Around the Corner (1940) to The Notebook (2004) to Dear John (2010). 

Handwritten letters mean more in today's texting world. Send a meaningful note on unique stationery, and add a special touch like a wax seal or a spritz of your perfume or cologne. You can bet they don't get something like that very often. Be sure to share: 

  1. Why you're writing the letter 

  2. What you admire about your partner (or crush)

  3. Special memories you've shared

  4. Their impact on your life

  5. A sweet ending, such as a date invitation

Give a Heartfelt Gift

If your honey's love language is "gifts," then you know gifts are essential. Some people love surprises, and others have probably been dropping hints since last Valentine's Day—so pay close attention. 

If you don't have specific gift ideas from them yet, these sentimental ideas will bring a smile to their face and keep that spark glowing. 

  1. A long-distance touch bracelet set. When you touch your bracelet, your partner's bracelet will vibrate to let them know they're on your mind. 

  2. A custom portrait mug. On Etsy, you can find coffee mugs featuring a portrait of you together—you can even have a handwritten note (in your handwriting) included in the design. 

  3. A fill-in-the-blank book. This budget-friendly gift is also super-personalized: you can fill in the blanks to share what you treasure about your love. 

  4. A subscription service. Subscribe them (or renew their subscription) to fun or favorite services, such as Stitch Fix, Escape the Crate, Beer of the Month, or BloomsyBox. 

  5. A portrait of their pet. Whether painted or printed, or in real life, there's no one they love more than their pet! They'll fall in love with a beautiful custom pet portrait—and fall in love with you all over again. 

Send a Funny Text Message

Handwritten letters are meaningful and have that distinctive old-fashioned feel. But honestly, words of love and affirmation are beautiful, whether in a handwritten letter, card, or witty text message. 

A text can be a sweet way to start your special someone's day on Valentine's Day. Maybe you have big date plans or have ordered flowers—it's still a great idea to connect first thing in the day with a sweet or silly text message. Here are some ideas if you're not sure what to say: 

  1. I may not be a photographer, but I can picture us together. 

  2. My Valentine's Day To-Do List: 1. You 

  3. Roses are red; Violets are Blue; I want to order a pizza & watch Netflix with you. 

  4. Don't worry about buying me chocolates this year—I'm on a diet! But diamonds are fine. 

  5. For history nerds: Quit Stalin and be my Valentine! 

  6. Roses are red; Lemons are yellow; I consider myself a lucky fellow! 

  7. Are you a loan? Because you've got my interest! 

The cheesier, the better! Asking someone to be your valentine via funny message is the best. Have fun coming up with the one that will make them smile. 

Surprise Them with a Flower Bouquet

You can't go wrong with flowers on Valentine's Day! But, if your significant other doesn't like flowers that die, you can always give them a beautiful handmade bouquet of paper flowers. Roses, wildflowers, sunflowers, and more—Lovepop has bouquets galore! 

If your valentine prefers real flowers, you can send many beautiful blooms. Some of our favorite flowers for Valentine's Day are:

  1. Long-stemmed roses. They're the classic flowers for your valentine for a reason! They're beautiful symbols of your love and adoration. 

  2. Sunflowers. There's no better way to say "you are my sunshine" than with a beautiful bouquet of sunflowers. Or add them to a mixed bouquet of cut flowers. 

  3. Lilies. They're beautiful alone or alongside roses. White lilies symbolize devotion, purity, and beauty, making them perfect for professing your pure love. Red lilies convey passion. 

  4. Ranunculus. Attractive, charming, and colorful, these flowers are a perfect way to say I love you to someone who brings joy and vibrancy to your life. 

A bouquet of flowers and a unique pop-up Valentine are precious gifts to bring to the door when you arrive on Valentine's Day. 

Make a Handmade Gift

Giving a handmade gift is a thoughtful gesture. You have given handmade tokens of your love since you were young, and it still feels special to give something handmade—and exciting to receive something made by someone you love.

What are some unique grown-up Valentine's Day gifts that are handmade? They don't have to be Pinterest-perfect to be meaningful. Here are a few of our faves: 

  1. Heart-shaped art. Create a canvas for your sweetie's home. Make a heart out of pom-poms, sequins, faux fur, paint drips, or any other crafty thing you can imagine. They'll enjoy it for years to come—and reflect upon your devotion. (And your impressive craft skills.) 

  2. A heart keychain. A keychain offers a little reminder of your love each day. You can find adorable keychain photo frames or craft ideas for making a one-of-a-kind heart keychain for your valentine. 

  3. Homemade soap. This one might take a little more time to figure out, but you'll create a useful and unique gift and come out of the deal with a new skill: soapmaking. If you need some help, there are lots of online tutorials. 

You can't go wrong with any of these sweet gifts; there are many other DIY Valentine's Day gifts, too. So go wherever your paintbrush or hot glue gun takes you—it's sure to turn out adorable! 

And if your DIY magic goes awry, there's always a Lovepop card. You can never go wrong with an adorable pop-up Valentine's Day card. *Wink.* 

Ask Them on a Date – in a Creative Way

If you're someone's secret (or obvious) admirer, asking them on a date shows that you want to spend time together. So here are some creative ways to ask them out: 

  1. With chocolates. It's undeniable—chocolate makes people happier, so ask them on a date with chocolates in hand. (And a pop-up chocolate card that reminds them just how loved they are.) 

  2. Send a text. I know, I know. It doesn't have that old-fashioned charm, but texting is standard communication nowadays. Make a text invite feel extra considerate by finding a creative or funny way to ask.

  3. A Punny Invitation. The only thing better than a funny invitation is a "punny" one. Write a note inside a themed card asking your sweetie on a date with homemade banana bread & card that says, "I'm bananas for you." Or a highlighter and note that says, "You're the highlight of my life. Will you be my valentine?" Or, an adorable construction pop-up card featuring a digger truck that says, "I dig you." 

What to Write Inside a Valentine's Day Card 

We'll call you Cupid because your loving message in a pop-up Valentine's Day card is the perfect tool for expressing your passion to your person. When you find the right pop-up card, you'll know it's the one—just like you knew your valentine was. Some favorite cards are: 

  1. A vibrant heart-covered card with a mini bouquet of red roses to say Happy Valentine's Day 

  2. And so many more! 

No matter which card you choose from our collection of dozens, below you'll find what to write to make your valentine's heart soar. 

Quotes to Write Inside a Valentine's Day Card

Other people have said some pretty romantic things in the past, in movies, and real life. When you're at a loss for the perfect words, their words can speak volumes. So you can write one of these sweet quotes inside your valentine for your valentine. 

  1. "When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible." —Harry, When Harry Met Sally

  2. "Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies." —Aristotle

  3. "You are my sun, my moon, and all my stars." —E.E. Cummings

  4. "When you're a kid, you assume your parents are soulmates. My kids are gonna be right about that." —Pam, The Office

  5. "It wasn't love at first sight. It took a full five minutes." —Lucille Ball, I Love Lucy

  6. "The best thing to hold onto in life is each other." ―Audrey Hepburn

Share your favorite quote in a pop-up valentine to make this Valentine's Day extra meaningful, and show them you love them to the moon and back. 

Messages to Write Inside a Valentine's Day Card 

The possibilities for what to write in a Valentine's Day card are genuinely endless. These messages are also lovely (and some, a little funny) when you want to ask someone to be your valentine—or celebrate your long-time valentine. 

  1. Happy Valentine's Day. I can't imagine my life without you by my side. Thanks for sticking with me. 

  2. Thank you for giving me a reason to look forward to every day. Happy Valentine's Day, my love. 

  3. You and me—we're meant to be! Will you be my valentine? 

  4. I'm wishing you the sweetest day, my sweetest valentine. 

  5. I love you more than [food]! If that's not real love, I don't know what is. Happy Valentine's Day! 

  6. Thank you for making loving me seem so easy. I love you forever. 

  7. I am turtle-y in love with you! (There's even a matching card.

  8. Happy Valentine's Day to the most wonderful person I've ever known. You fill my life with joy, laughter, and love. 

So, when you wonder how to ask someone to be your valentine, remember: there are many ways to say Happy Valentine's Day, but the best way is from the heart. A beautiful Lovepop pop-up card from our Valentine's Day collection is the perfect way to say, "I love you!" to your valentine this year.                                 

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